Of loving...losing and letting go

2009-02-04T02:45:00.000-08:00

OF LOVING--

"Love not because you like that person, nor because you care, Love not because you know you cant live without that person. Instead, just LOVE...and forget about WHY.

Love for me is the most important and fulfilling emotion that we will ever feel---the strongest feeling known. It is God's wonderful gift. It works in many different ways that are so wondrous and strange. It can bring the best in us in all aspect of our existence. It helps us to not insist on having our own way all the time.

There is nothing in life that love cannot change. When we feel love, our hearts feel much lighter. It lets us feel the tenderness and warmth and it gives us a sense of "wholeness" that avoids loneliness. It helps us bear hardships without complaint, and it endures suffering with a smile.

Love is like a beautiful song that helps to soothe us when everything is going wrong. It makes everything seem so satisfying. It is a reason to want to keep growing and wanting to make ourselves become better.

Love helps us judge with our hearts and not with our minds. It gives us the strength to forgive others. If we let love enter our hearts, we can see more of the good in others and do not see as many faults. All the things that seemed wrong to us begin to look right again when we look at it through the softness of love's gentle light.

OF LOSING AND LETTING GO--

I believe there is dignity in not giving up on someone you truly love. But I also believe there is more dignity in letting him go so he can experience better love. This I suppose is the best expression of true love, no matter how fit.

I believe there is respect in fighting gallantly to win someone's heart another time. But an even greater respect comes from fighting hard and knowing when to stop. Even though I would give anything to have the past back, that person has touched my life in a way that will make my future so much brighter.

I have to accept that, and hold my head high Knowing I have captured his heart as well. There is courage in allowing my heart to hurt and grieve, but there is greater courage in knowing it will be scarred. But stronger as time goes on. For whoever caused those scars has made my life better in some way, and it will make me a better person because of what the scars taught me.

Losing the person who meant so much in my life is a humbling experience, Yet it is even more humbling if I allow it to run my life and forsake all I have been blessed with. When I feel like I have lost my world, I just have to raise my head up and remember how many people depend on me. Yes, there is fortitude in holding on for another chance, but i still believe there is an even greater fortitude that comes from extending my hand and heart in friendship, realizing I will still share things with that person no one else ever will. I will always have the looks and jokes and memories and I will not ever discount how special those things are in my and in his heart. True love hurts when it is lost, but I know an even greater love grows inside me through realization that something better is in the world for both of us.

And that there are still things to share with you --- the memories, even though some feelings may have changed. Allow me to take your hand and help you achieve your hopes and dreams.

To YOU...thank you for everything.

Some Good Things Never Last

2009-02-02T08:16:00.000-08:00

The lyrics i copy/pasted below aptly describes the situation I am into now. No matter how I think and conditioned myself to this eventuality, it is still hard to escape from the pain and heavy heart that cuts like the wildest knife. Time will heal--i know but as to when? God only knows and i have surrendered my heart to HIM to take care of and heal. So many realizations and lessons confronted my being 'human' ... vulnerability to hurts and depression. This i suppose is the prize of loving...of loving too much. When all i think of is a love that's perfect, a love I for so long desired and dream of. I never imagined it ended this fast and so soon. Lately, i realized the reasons why this has to end -- to give way to somebody who might need that love more than i did. Have done this 20 years go...letting go of a love that's unreal and filled with deception and disrespect and just holding on life for the sake of the people that i valued so much. SELFLESSNESS- to forget oneself and deny my own being for the people i love, to sacrifice and suffer so that others will be happy. To endure the pain for others to gain. To forget one's happiness and personal desire for the person you love so much to be happy.

There is nothing more to wish for....than for every significant people in my life to find peace and happiness. Life after all is too short to live with bitterness and pain in our heart. I had my share of happiness...looking forward to an eternal happiness with God..for HE alone can give it to us. A love that's unconditional...no reality, no bounds, no pain along the way, no frustrations and no expectations. Meantime, i pray for PEACE to rule in everyone's heart while we are still in this world that's full of surprises and uncertainties.

SAIL on lady....to where the waves leads you to...to the promise of sunshine -- but always keep in mind that some good things never last and be prepared for that all the time :-)

It's three in the morning
you're no were in sight
and all that I wanted was to be with you tonight
the love in your eyes
is fading so fast
no matter how hard we try
some good things never last
but what good is holding on
when you know
that all you can think about
is letting go
they say if you love someone
then set them free
if they come back again
then in the end
it was meant to be
I thought we were lovers
I thought we were friends
I guess when reality steps in
it all depends
we live for the future
we learn from the past
no matter how hard we try
some good things never last
when all you can think about
is letting go
be true to yourself my love
that's all I ever wanted you to be
just don't forget to smile
when you think of me
I'll reach for the stars
I've got them in sight
there's someone who really needs me
out there in the night
we live for the future
we learn from the past
no matter how hard we try
some good things never last

'till we meet again...somewhere...sometime...with a smile in our heart.

AFTERGLOW

Of loving...losing and letting go

Some Good Things Never Last